The Tough Days

My blogs so far have all been pretty positive and focused on how easy it is to take action to make a change in your life.  But what about the days when you can’t face taking that action or when things don’t go to plan and you feel like you just can’t do it?

Firstly, if this is a feeling you have regularly, and it is affecting your life in many ways then I’d urge you to speak to your GP.  They might think that you need some help.  Don’t see this as a weakness, approximately 1 in 4 people in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year [1] and in England, 1 in 6 people report experiencing a common mental health problem (such as anxiety and depression) in any given week [2].  The good news is that with the right support most people can be helped and fully recover.  Personally, I found CBT really helpful and it gave me tools to use after I’d finished seeing my therapist.  Coming out the other side ready to take on my new life was amazing!

If you know you don’t need that sort if help but are struggling then maybe one of the following might help:

  • Don’t be so hard on yourself – you don’t have to be superwoman or superman everyday! Can you take some time off and do something different?  Even if only for a short time.
  • Look at your support network – remember you’re not alone, who could you call or text for some assistance?
  • Exercise – release those happy hormones by going to the gym, going for a walk or run or swim or ride, dance around the kitchen or whatever works for you.
  • Evaluate if it’s the right thing – if you’re struggling to do it, is it the right thing right now or is there something else that needs to be done first?
  • Try visualisation – sit in a quiet place, take a few slow breaths & close your eyes. Visualise what you want to achieve and what it means for you – what will you feel and look like when you achieve your goal?  Now see yourself doing what you need to do, take a really big breath, open your eyes and DO IT!
  • Break it down – is it just too much in one go? Break it down to baby steps.
  • Reward yourself – have you been slogging it out without any reward, think about where you’ve come from already and congratulate yourself and set a reward for the next goal too.

A lot of my clients come to me when they’re stuck, when they’ve tried the conventional and its not worked for them.  Coaching provides a bespoke service tailored to meet your needs – if you’d like to try a free session and find out more give me a call on 07971 919498 or email


[1] McManus, S., Meltzer, H., Brugha, T. S., Bebbington, P. E., & Jenkins, R. (2009). Adult psychiatric morbidity in England, 2007: results of a household survey. The NHS Information Centre for health and social care.

[2] McManus S, Bebbington P, Jenkins R, Brugha T. (eds.) (2016). Mental health and wellbeing in England: Adult psychiatric morbidity survey 2014. Leeds: NHS digital.